Do you want your parents to give you more freedom but don't know how to ask? Afraid they might say no? Don't worry! Here are a few ways to slowly (but surely) gain more freedom.

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Your parents are not going to give you maximum freedom overnight. You are going to need to earn their trust. As they trust you more, they will give you more freedom.

My parents give me freedom, but this is because they have trust in me. As soon as they find I am no longer trustworthy or I break their trust, I lose some freedom, and I think that is how it should be it's fair. Here are a few ways to start to earn their trust.

1. Be honest: I know I know, being honest and telling our parents stuff may not be the most fun, we may even feel like we are oversharing or can't trust them. But if you trust your parents they will trust you. Just be honest with them, don't lie they will find out anyway.
2. Show responsibility: Show how you are responsible! You can do the dishes, clean your room, make sure your school work is done on time and turned in. Do them before a parent asks! Yes, this may just seem like normal chores or day-to-day things but if you are responsible and stay responsible your parents will see this and trust you with other things more.

I know only two ways!? What!? That can't be it!? But it is. As long as you are honest and show responsibility, you will start to gain your parents' trust!

Okay, I've got their trust but how do I ask for freedom? Simple.

1. Talk. To. Them. It is that simple. Talk with your parents, maybe even start with one first before you are ready to present your idea to the other. Simply say something along the lines of, “Hey, (insert parent or guardian) I was wondering may I go to (whatever activity) that's happening (date)?” Simple.
2. Don't ask for too much too soon. You may want to jump in and just be as free as a bird at first but that is not how this works. Start with something simple like going to a friend's house, or that football game that's coming up.
3. Every detail matters! Remember in reading class when they taught you the W's? Who, what, when, why, how. Who will be there? What will you be doing? When is it? Why do you want to go? How will you get there and back? Answer these when asking and they will be thinking about it, they have all the details right up front.
4. Don't push. They may say no the first time and you may not like that. But don't push on the subject, maybe the next day just slightly bring it up and that's it. If they say no at first, it is not the end of the world but maintain that trust so you can ask to go to another event another time.

TIP! Talk to them about how you want more freedom. Come up with pros and cons, state all the facts, and give information!

Answer questions! Tell them why they can trust you and if you misuse the freedom or break their trust what will happen if you do! Come to an agreement on these things!!

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Remember you may not get all that you want right away it will take some time but don't worry you'll get there! Now get out there and earn some trust! You got this! Good Luck!